Recently, I had the opportunity to watch, listen and talk to three young women who had moved in together. They all have a different take on living on their own. Sadly, one of them has had to move out. Why? It wasn't just personality conflict which can come with roommates. It came down to being responsible. One of the girls had lost her job because she didn't show up for work and didn't call in. She didn't really think anything of it, or the consequences of not getting a new job before she quit her job. Within a few months after losing her job, her roommates became fed up with housing her and feeding her while she'd go out to bars dancing and partying.
Now, from the perspective of the girl who lost her job, she felt she was looking. In reality, she'd go out and get a bunch of applications, bring them home and too often they would sit there. She'd apply for a job now and again, and even had a couple interviews. She wasn't contributing to the household. The other girls would get upset at her because they were working, buying food and cleaning house, while she was only occasionally job hunting, but going out several times a week dancing and drinking. She'd come home, but she didn't clean house, she didn't buy groceries, but she did eat food that the girls who were working bought.
This young woman felt that as long as she tried (even if it was minutely), that there should be no consequences to getting fired from her job. She felt that others should feed her, pay her rent, and she should be free to continue living her life as she wanted.
Instead of stepping back and realizing that the world doesn't work like that. She never took a step back and thought of the fact that her roommates only made enough to support themselves and that they couldn't keep feeding her and cleaning up after her, while she took her time to find a job. Instead, she put the whole household in jeopardy.
Sadly, this now 22 year old young woman has to learn the hard way the lessons of responsibility. It makes me wonder if she was taught that there are consequences to her actions as she was growing up. If she was then it didn't stick.
I wish her the best and hope that she is able to learn about responsibility.